There is no set time when a man should ejaculate during sex. But it’s probably too soon if you have an orgasm before intercourse or less than a minute after you start.
If you’re climaxing sooner than you and your partner would like, sex may not be satisfying for either of you.
It’s a problem called premature ejaculation (PE). It can be frustrating and even embarrassing. It can hurt your relationship too.
Sexual concerns, including premature ejaculation (PE), are relatively common. Premature ejaculation happens when a man climaxes before he or his partner would have wanted during sex. Men dealing with premature ejaculation tend to orgasm within one minute of being stimulated sexually and are usually unable to delay ejaculation.
It’s a problem because when you ejaculate you lose your erection and can’t continue having sex. You and your partner may feel there’s not enough time to enjoy it.
The condition affects as many as 1 out of 3 men, and can lead to frustration and anxiety. Some men with premature ejaculation may avoid sex as a result. But there are treatments that can help.
You don’t have to live with it. There are things you can do to last longer in bed.
How Can Premature Ejaculation Be Treated?
Doctors often recommend counseling to treat premature ejaculation. That may include psychotherapy, as well as learning ways to communicate with your partner about sexual dysfunction.
Another effective strategy is to work with your partner or through masturbation to train your body to delay ejaculation, says Kramer. “You get to the point where you are going to ejaculate and then stop and think about sports or something else to cool down,” he explains. “This will help you train your body to master that response when you are with your partner.”
Other treatment options for premature ejaculation include medications used to treat depression, such as Paxil (paroxetine), Zoloft (sertraline), and Prozac (fluoxetine), notes Kramer. Another option is to use numbing creams such as lidocaine or Emla (lidocaine and prilocaine) directly on the genitals to help control premature ejaculation.
These therapies may be used together in different combinations to treat premature ejaculation, and in turn improve your self-esteem and sex life.
Sometimes premature ejaculation can be a problem for men with erectile dysfunction (ED). That’s when the penis does not remain firm enough for sex. Men who are worried they could lose their erection may develop a pattern of rushing to ejaculate. It can be a hard habit to break.
Treating the erectile dysfunction may make the premature ejaculation go away. There are many options including drugs like sildenafil citrate (Viagra), tadalafil (Cialis) or vardenafil HCI (Levitra). All of these help men maintain an erection.